Neurodivergence is not something to be fixed.
It is not a deficit, a failure, or a problem of effort or motivation. Neurodivergent ways of thinking, feeling, sensing, and relating are natural variations of the human nervous system.
Neurodivergence-affirming therapy moves away from trying to make people fit into a box and instead focuses on understanding, supporting, and honouring how your brain and nervous system work.
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What is neurodivergence?
Neurodivergence is an umbrella term that includes a wide range of neurotypes, such as:
ADHD
Autism
Sensory processing differences
Learning differences
Giftedness
Other neurological variations
Some people have a formal diagnosis, others are self-identified or still exploring this possibility. Both are valid. Many adults, especially women, gender-diverse people, and those socialized more to mask, go undiagnosed for years and may come to therapy feeling confused, burnt out, or deeply self-critical.
The impact of living in a neurotypical world
Much of the distress neurodivergent people experience doesn’t come from their neurotype itself, but from prolonged mismatch with their environment.
This can include:
Chronic overwhelm or shutdown
Burnout from masking or camouflaging
Heightened anxiety or depression
Sensory exhaustion
Shame, self-doubt, or feeling “too much” or “not enough”
Difficulty with transitions, expectations, or executive functioning
Over time, these experiences can erode self-trust and lead people to believe there is something fundamentally wrong with them — when in reality, their nervous system has been adapting to survive in an unsupported context.
You don’t need to become someone else
Therapy isn’t about making you more palatable, productive, or compliant.
It’s about helping you feel safer in your body, clearer in your needs, and more grounded in who you are. That may involve unlearning harmful messages, redefining success, and building supports that honour your capacity, not stretch you beyond it.
What neurodivergence-affirming therapy might look like
Neurodivergence-affirming care is not about teaching you how to tolerate distressing environments or override your needs. It is about helping you understand yourself more deeply and build a life that fits you.
In therapy, this may include:
Validation of your lived experience, without minimizing or pathologizing
Exploration of masking and its costs, including burnout and loss of identity
Support with sensory awareness and regulation
Executive functioning support
Parts-based approaches (IFS-informed therapy) to work with inner critics, protectors, or shutdown responses with compassion
Nervous system–informed work that respects different thresholds for stimulation, processing, and rest
Therapy is adapted to your communication style, processing speed, and energy levels, not the other way around.
Neurodivergence, trauma and mental health
Many neurodivergent people have experienced chronic relational stress, misunderstanding, or invalidation. Over time, this can lead to trauma-like responses, even in the absence of a single “big” event.
Anxiety, depression, and chronic shame often develop not because of neurodivergence itself, but because of years of being asked to push past limits, suppress needs, or perform acceptability.
A neurodivergence-affirming approach holds all of this with care, recognizing the interplay between biology, environment, and nervous system.
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